Don’t know what to write on a dating app? Don’t worry. Here are 101 questions to ask by text and opening lines to use on a dating app. Use them to get to know someone better over text and make a good first impression! This article is suitable for all, with questions for Him and for Her…
Table of contents
What to write in your profile to spark conversation
Opening lines to start the conversation on a dating app
Questions to ask to get to know them better
Flirty questions to ask them by text
Questions to ask to see if they’re looking for commitment
Questions to take the conversation a little deeper
What to write in your dating profile to spark conversation
A good way to improve the chances of somebody starting a conversation with you on a dating app, (excluding the need for you having to start the conversation with them) is to leave a breadcrumb question in your profile. Something that doubles up as a fact about you and also a debate starter, so when they see you and get a match, they’re more likely to click the conversation and answer your question.
A cliche example of this;
Q. Pineapple doesn’t belong on pizza’s! Do you agree?
But here are some more original ideas;
- Big true crime podcast fan. Adnan Syed is out! But I think he did it… agree?
- I love a film with an open ending. I’m 100% sure Leo was still dreaming in Inception.. prove me wrong…
- Were you Team Depp or Team Heard? Your answer will determine if we date or not… no pressure 😉
Find more Dating Profile Tips for Tinder, Bumble, and EHarmony
Opening lines to start the conversation on a dating app
There’s a particular trap that you don’t want to fall into if you want to avoid short, awkward conversations on dating apps – and it’s this:
“Hey.”
The only thing someone can answer to that is “Hi.” And then it’s, “How are you?” And omg, now you’re both bored already, the chemistry is dead in the water and your conversation is dull dull dull.
Try a more open-ended question that might get the other person to reveal something about their day, their mood, their activities, that you can then let a natural conversation flow from.
- Hey, how’s your weekend going? Busy or quiet?
- Hi. I saw on your profile you like ___. Me too! What do you think of the latest ___?
- Have we met before? I think I recognise you from…
- Hey, the story on your profile about ___ made me laugh… did you get in trouble? 😂
Questions to ask to get to know them better
So now you know how to make sure the conversation gets off to a good start, and first impressions have gone well, it’s time to start getting to know each other. If you have a mind-blank, here are some great questions to ask to get to know them a bit better over text.
- Do you have a bucket list?
- What’s your most listened to on Spotify/ITunes?
- Is your ideal night out Pub, Club or Restaurant?
- Where’s your favourite place you’ve ever been?
- Where’s somewhere you always wanted to go?
- Who’s your favourite person?
- When you have spare cash, what do you like to spend it on?
- Are you tidy or messy?
- Sweet foods or savoury foods?
- What would you chose for your last meal?
- Would you rather look into the future, or the past?
- Would you rather be out on a hike or at home watching a film?
- Tell me a really good memory you have?
Flirty questions to ask them by text
Want to heat the conversation up a little bit? Here are some flirty questions to ask them over text in order to kick the conversation up a notch.
- Are you affectionate?
- What’s your perfect first date?
- What did you first like about my profile? Was there something about me you found attractive?
- What’s the sexiest dream you’ve ever had?
- Do you flirt with everyone, or just me?
- What do you think is my best feature?
- If you could either never kiss again or never have sex again what would you choose?
- What do you find most attractive in the opposite sex?
- Do you like people to be direct when they have a crush on you?
- If you’re attracted to someone, do you always tell them?
Questions to ask to see if they’re looking for commitment
If you’re looking for the real deal and don’t want to waste your time chatting to another person who’s just going to end up ghosting you, then you need to ask the right things. Here are some questions to ask them over text to see if they’re looking for commitment.
- Is family important to you?
- What’s your five-year plan?
- What are your main priorities in life at the moment?
- Live to work or work to live?
- Are you good with kids?
- Do you get a lot of free time? Do you have time in your life for someone new?
- Do you own a house? Would you like to in future? On you own or with someone?
- Do you think marriage is an old-fashioned concept?
- Have you ever lived with a partner?
- Have you ever come close to getting married?
Questions to take the conversation a little deeper
If you’ve been talking long enough to feel comfortable with some of the less light-hearted topics, here are some good questions to ask them over text for a deeper conversation.
- What’s your biggest fear?
- What’s your worst memory?
- What do you think the meaning of life is?
- Where do you think we all came from?
- Are you religious?
- What’s the biggest lesson you’ve learned in life so far?
- What’s one thing you like about yourself and one thing you dislike?
- Are your parents still together?
- What’s most important to you in life?
- Are you happy?
- Are you a glass half full or half empty type of person?
- Have you ever struggled with mental health?
- When was the last time you cried?
- Have you ever been in love?
- What makes you happy?
This or That? Questions
- Indoors or outdoors?
- Country or city?
- Mountains or beach?
- Hot weather or cold weather?
- Books or films?
- Nights out or nights in?
- Work hard or play hard?
- Camping or hotel?
- Sightseeing or sunbathing?
- Help the world or help yourself?
- Morning person or night owl?
- Sunrise or sunset?
“Would you rather” questions
- Would you rather have a fast and furious relationship or a slow burn?
- If it had to be one or the other, would you rather cheat or be cheated on?
- Would you rather meet the love of your life tomorrow or win the lottery?
- Would you rather be a priest or a stripper?
- Would you rather be recognised all over town or not known by anybody?
- Would you rather stay home all the time in a £1M house or own nothing and travel the world for free?
- Would you rather eat nothing but meat or be vegan?
- Would you rather live with 10 other people or nobody?
- Would you rather be able to teleport or read minds?
- Would you rather get married to me tomorrow or never date again?
Are you a Single Mum? Read 25 more questions for you to ask him over text here…