Last updated on March 16th, 2022 at 08:12 am
It’s normal to feel like a lonely single mum. Being a single parent can sometimes feel like the loneliest job in the world.
When the day is done, and they’re all tucked up in bed, the silence can be deafening as you sit and wish you had someone to talk to.
Lots of people experience being a lonely single mum.
Lonely is a State of Mind We Can Get Stuck In
There are some really damaging thoughts that come with being lonely.
When we’re feeling lonely it’s easy to start having thoughts such as “nobody wants me” or “nobody cares”
It’s important to remember that these thoughts aren’t true!
Loneliness is something that lots of people fall in and out of throughout their lives.
Life comes in peaks and troughs. You may be on a low now but on a high next year.
Change will come, there’s no stopping it!
Loneliness is a shared experience, there are others out there who feel how you feel.
Especially when it comes to being a lonely single mum.
10 Tips for a Lonely Single Mum
- Look for single parent events near you.
This is going to be a great way to meet other single parents just like you who have the same problems and worries. And the same joys.
It’s nice to talk to someone who just ‘gets it’.
- Join a Facebook group.
If you’re lonely but don’t have time to get out and about to socialise, do it online!
Search for single parent Facebook groups and start engaging with posts.
Maybe you’ll make a friend or just have a chance to talk/vent with others. - Go on a single parent group holiday.
Contrary to what you might think, you don’t have to organise these yourself.
You don’t even have to know any other single parents to go on a holiday with a bunch of them.
Companies like Campmates and Single Parent Festival organise trips every year for lone parent families across the UK.
See the next dates for group holidays here. - Start to get back into dating.
Is it a romantic loneliness that you feel?
Rather than general?
You might have loads of friends and family and support already, but there’s still something missing when you go to bed each night and feel very alone.
There are some articles to help you on your journey back to finding love if you scroll down this article! - Consider returning to work if you’re not working already.
If you’re a SAHM, sometimes the four walls around you can start to feel like a cell and you may feel like you’ve lost a little of ‘who you are’.
Returning to work, part time or full time will reconnect you with other adults.
Read: Tips for a Single Mum Returning to Work - Spend some quality time with your child(ren).
You might be looking at this tip and thinking ‘what?? I spend all my time with my kids! That’s why I’m lonely in the first place!’.
But actually, sometimes we all, children and adults included, can get stuck in roles.
You’re the grumpy tired adult who does the cooking and cleaning, they’re the wild kids who are busy with screen time and running around and making a mess.
You might be in the same house as each other all day – but are you connecting?
Sitting down to have a chat, or gathering around the table to play a board game – putting all phones and tablets aside for a bit, could be the perfect tonic in a moment of loneliness.
Read: Phone addicted mum? - Download the Peanut app. It’s like Tinder, but for finding mum friends!
- Hit the play park at peak time.
Rope in someone for a chat. - Start a new hobby.
What have you always wanted to do? Why aren’t you doing it? Try! - Get a family pet.
Have a good long think about whether a pet might be right for your household, and what kind! Something low maintenance, like a cat? Or cheap, like a goldfish… having another little heartbeat around the home might be nice.
How You Can Flip The Script on Loneliness?
Try to see loneliness as an opportunity.
Lots of time to yourself? Use your time alone to do something you love.
Use it to organise yourself or improve your situation in some way.
You’re in control, don’t forget that!
You can take control of your loneliness and put yourself out there.
Look what’s going on in your local area and join a group that piques your interest.
And if there’s nothing locally, there’s always groups online! Having an online community to turn to can be a real comfort.
Scroll down to the end of this article for Single Mum Facebook Group links.
If you’re usually super busy being a mum and you don’t have the time to join a group or enjoy a hobby, here’s another tip.
Sometimes, curing those lonely moments is as simple as clicking on the telly and turning to an old favourite.
An episode of Friends, The Office, Sex and The City or whatever you like, can be enough to get you laughing and feeling better in no time.
Finding Love Again (the right way)
If you haven’t read them already, this website has some really great posts for single mums looking to date.
Dating for the first time since becoming a single mum can be so daunting for many reasons.
Chances are, you’ve been out of the game a little longer than your average single person.
And now you’ve got kids! How will that work? This element of dating comes with so many questions.
Will it be harder to find a partner? Do I make it clear that I have kids, or wait?
Worry no more, here are your answers;
These three extremely popular posts will tell you everything you need to know about Single Mum Dating
What to Write in Your Single Mum Tinder Bio
Bumble Profile Examples for a Single Mum
Hinge Profile Examples for a Single Mum
Remember – There’s nothing wrong with wanting to find love again!
Just as long as you’re not leaping headfirst into a bad relationship purely out of fear of being alone!
Being Comfortable With Yourself – Lonely Single Mum No More!
Take some time to work on you.
A little self-reflection, can go a long way.
Ask yourself what you need, emotionally, and give it to yourself before turning to someone else to try and find it.
Self-forgiveness, self-love, and self-parenting are all things you could take some time to read up on.
Understanding your mental health and being kind to your own heart can be the way to being alone but not feeling lonely.
Some Practical Tips
When you’re overwhelmed with trying to figure out how to deal with the kids’ behaviour, trying to keep up with the housework or plan meals for the week – Just-Us-Two.com is here for you!
Single Mum to a Young Baby or Toddler?
Take advantage of the brand new Facebook group Single Mums to Under 1’s.
Designed to be a safe space for those who fall into the category of both single-parent and new parent!
Raising a newborn alone can be a tough and daunting journey, so having a social community of like-minded people to support you could be game-changing.
A lonely single mum can have their day turned around with a helpful conversation with another adult in a similar situation.
So join the group today if you fit the bill!
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It’s a pressing subject for many single-parent families and one that comes with multiple complications and questions.
Just Us Two aims to answer those questions for you with a series of upcoming blog posts about co-parenting.
Read the first blog post on this subject here;
WHEN CO-PARENTS DON’T GET ALONG – THE ANSWER
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