Before you had children you were probably fobbing them off left right and centre, right? But things aren’t the same and there’s a definite dip in interest on the dating front. So your insecurities are on high alert and you start to wonder; Now I’m a single mum, will I find love again?
Will I Be a Single Mum Forever?
Probably not, no! Not unless it’s by choice. This question is coming from a place of anxiety and uncertainty. There’s no actual reason why you should think that you’ll never have another relationship again if you want one.
Sure, it might take you longer to find the right person. Mum life is busy! Responsibilities are endless, your to-do list is packed. You have your kids to think about, not just yourself. So yes, dating as a single mum is harder.
Here’s Why You Should Stay Optimistic About Finding Love Again
There’s no need to be short-sighted about this. Don’t be freaking out that you’ll be alone forever, six weeks or even six months on from your breakup.
If you start thinking long-term, rather than the here and now, you’ll realise that there’s plenty of time for life to unfold.
If you haven’t found love in your 20’s, 30’s or 40’s, you can certainly still find it in your 50’s, 60’s or beyond!
Life is a long and winding road with ups and downs. Don’t prolong the downs by ruminating about things that you simply don’t know and can’t predict.
Think About Your Life 5 Years Ago…
How many new people have you met in the last five years? Or how many new friends did you make? What things happened that you didn’t expect?
This line of thought should be able to give you some better perspective on the next 5 years of your life. You’ll meet new people and unexpected things will happen.
Who’s to say that one of those things won’t be a new relationship?
You’re currently a single mum, will you find love and shed that title by 2026? It’s not unlikely…
Until then, just enjoy life as it is. Relish this time and make the most of just focusing all your energy on yourself and your children.
How to Raise Your Confidence
Taking steps towards raising your confidence as a dating single mum (or a single mum on a break) is going to benefit you tenfold.
First and foremost, you deserve more than a life full of worry and low self-esteem. Secondly, confidence is incredibly attractive!
This beatifully written blog post Getting Back Out There: How to Feel Empowered & Confident on the Dating Scene has some awesome tips.
Will I Find Love Again as a Single Mum? Conclusion
Stop asking the question! Start loving your life as it is, and your happiness and good vibes will attract everything you need.
The best and most healthy relationships come to those who have already found fulfillment and contentedness from within.
We can’t predict the future, and if we could, wouldn’t it spoil the most lovely surprises?
If you follow the advice of this article and spend some time on you, good things will come. Don’t fret.
Manifest Your Dream Partner:
What qualities would your ideal future partner possess? Comment below!